SEX!!!
(now that we have your attention, please place your used cups in the washbin)
This post is going to be in that same spirit. Sex motivates like few other things, and in a world where it's so hard to find the motivation to be healthy you've got to use whatever you can to get you on the right path.
So, guys, let's talk about using wellness to get sexy. I like the word sexy because you don't have to be born with designer genes and freakishly symmetrical bone structure to be sexy. Sexy is a mystique that mere beauty can't touch. Some of the sexiest people I've ever met wouldn't be called beautiful in a million years. And some of the most beautiful people I've met are about as sexy as a Borg Cube.
Anyone can be sexy, but you've got to get on top of some of your body stuff first. So whether you're into dudes or ladies or both you should find some points in here that motivate you to get to that workout and pass on the onion rings.
I'm going to write this same post for ladies in the future, but let's start with the dudes, as they're the ones who screw this up most consistently.
If you're a dude and you want to be sexy, keep the following in mind.
• Lose the excess weight. When you're walking around with extra weight of more than 20 pounds (10 kilos) you're sending a message to everyone you meet, a message that says "I don't know how to take care of myself." And that's not SEXY. We're naturally attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin, who take responsibility for their choices, and who get things done. Being trim puts a check mark next to all three of those things without you having to say a word.
• It's all about the face. Very few people are ever going to see your abs (or lack of them) but
everyone you meet is going to see your face. They aren't, however, going to take the time to gaze deeply into your eyes. They're going to get a quick impression of you by the basic lines of your bone structure. Forehead, brow, eyes, cheekbones, nose, lips, jawline and chin will be scanned in a millisecond and conclusions will start to be drawn. But guess what, you have dozens of little fat compartments just under the dermis on your face. If you're carrying around a bunch of weight, those fat compartments are going to plump out and obscure the natural bone structure of your skull. In that brief mental scan others make of you, you'll be entered into the memory banks as a kind of a blurry non-entity.
I heard an interview with a former CIA spy once and he was laughing about all the James Bond movies. He said you'd never send an incredibly handsome, debonair spy out into the field. He'd attract way too much attention. Real spies are dumpy, average types whose faces you'd have a hard time recalling. That's the point. However, if you want to be SEXY you don't want to be that guy. You want to make an impression. And your main tool for that is your face. So shed that fat and let your real facial features have their day in the sun.
• While we're on the topic of fat pockets, I should mention all people have a substantial fat pocket just above their pelvic bone. For men, however, if that fat pocket gets plump, it will have the unfortunate side effect of making the other body part found there appear smaller and shorter. Not to get too blue, but if your fat percentage creeps high enough, that fat pocket will cover a good inch at the base of your manhood. Conversely, if you can lose some of that fat, you're little champion will appear longer and larger. Not exactly necessary to be SEXY, but it doesn't hurt!
• Second to your fat level, the next most important is your posture and bearing. With the prevalence of computer based office work, it's hard to find men these days who naturally stand tall with their shoulders back, head high, and chest lifted. This is in fact how your body is designed to stand, but a seated lifestyle will round the shoulders forward, make the neck jut forward at an unpleasant angle, and cause the belly to stick out. You'll look shorter and fatter than you really are. It's important to realize that this problem cannot be fixed by forcing yourself to stand up straight. The problem isn't a lack of willpower, it's the fact that your body's structure has been altered by the modern lifestyle. Only by strengthening and stretching your atrophied legs can you restore your posture to something a little more SEXY. (If only someone would write a guide about how to do this... OH SNAP!)
• Which leads me to the next point - flexibility. Being able to touch your toes or do fancy yoga poses is not the point of being flexible. A flexible body will simply glide through space better. A guy who moves like a block, no matter how good his condition, is inherently less pleasing to watch than a person who moves with some elegance. The only way to start moving with grace is to ease the amount of resistance between muscle and bone. And that means you need to start moving and stretching regularly. Take a yoga class. You'll meet other SEXY people there too.
• Chill with the chest and biceps stuff. If you have a massive chest and bulging biceps, there's only one group of people you're going to impress; the other sweaty dudes in the weight room. And that's not really the point right? Men focus on these two areas far too much, probably because they get results fastest here and they're the places you can easily see in a mirror. A large chest rarely looks good on a guy. What you want to be is proportional. A toned chest gained without heavy weights will look better in clothes and will get you away from the musclehead look.
As far as biceps go, just get over yourself. The biceps is not a very useful muscle for daily life, and when the arm is held relaxed (as it will be when you meet most people) a large bicep can actually make your arm look less toned. What you want to work on is your triceps, the muscle on the back of the arm. This muscle will help you with almost all actions involving your arm, and when the limb is held relaxed the triceps give it a great sexy shape.
• Legs! I can't tell you how many guys I've met who spend a lot of time on their upper body but neglect their legs. If you do this, you're going to look incredibly silly. A big muscley torso balanced on little chicken legs will knock you a quite a few pegs down on the sexy scale. Listen well men of the world, women love a guy with strong legs. They check out your legs and butt almost as much as you check out theirs. Strong legs hint that you are a truly athletic person and not just a gym rat preening his pecs and biceps in the mirror. We spend a whole month of the PCP hammering on the legs. Legs legs legs! Gotta have em looking good if you want to be SEXY.
• And finally, a good balance of Confidence and Curiosity. An attractive person is happy with who they are while simultaneously willing to improve and change. Be comfortable with who you are, but open minded about who you'll become. This combination makes you incredibly interesting to be around, and only interesting people will prove sexy in the long run.
So chew on that fellas, I'll come back to this topic from the ladies perspective in a few weeks. Till then, eat better, move your body a little every day, and stay SEXY!
So, guys, let's talk about using wellness to get sexy. I like the word sexy because you don't have to be born with designer genes and freakishly symmetrical bone structure to be sexy. Sexy is a mystique that mere beauty can't touch. Some of the sexiest people I've ever met wouldn't be called beautiful in a million years. And some of the most beautiful people I've met are about as sexy as a Borg Cube.
Anyone can be sexy, but you've got to get on top of some of your body stuff first. So whether you're into dudes or ladies or both you should find some points in here that motivate you to get to that workout and pass on the onion rings.
I'm going to write this same post for ladies in the future, but let's start with the dudes, as they're the ones who screw this up most consistently.
If you're a dude and you want to be sexy, keep the following in mind.
• Lose the excess weight. When you're walking around with extra weight of more than 20 pounds (10 kilos) you're sending a message to everyone you meet, a message that says "I don't know how to take care of myself." And that's not SEXY. We're naturally attracted to people who are comfortable in their own skin, who take responsibility for their choices, and who get things done. Being trim puts a check mark next to all three of those things without you having to say a word.
• It's all about the face. Very few people are ever going to see your abs (or lack of them) but
everyone you meet is going to see your face. They aren't, however, going to take the time to gaze deeply into your eyes. They're going to get a quick impression of you by the basic lines of your bone structure. Forehead, brow, eyes, cheekbones, nose, lips, jawline and chin will be scanned in a millisecond and conclusions will start to be drawn. But guess what, you have dozens of little fat compartments just under the dermis on your face. If you're carrying around a bunch of weight, those fat compartments are going to plump out and obscure the natural bone structure of your skull. In that brief mental scan others make of you, you'll be entered into the memory banks as a kind of a blurry non-entity.I heard an interview with a former CIA spy once and he was laughing about all the James Bond movies. He said you'd never send an incredibly handsome, debonair spy out into the field. He'd attract way too much attention. Real spies are dumpy, average types whose faces you'd have a hard time recalling. That's the point. However, if you want to be SEXY you don't want to be that guy. You want to make an impression. And your main tool for that is your face. So shed that fat and let your real facial features have their day in the sun.
• While we're on the topic of fat pockets, I should mention all people have a substantial fat pocket just above their pelvic bone. For men, however, if that fat pocket gets plump, it will have the unfortunate side effect of making the other body part found there appear smaller and shorter. Not to get too blue, but if your fat percentage creeps high enough, that fat pocket will cover a good inch at the base of your manhood. Conversely, if you can lose some of that fat, you're little champion will appear longer and larger. Not exactly necessary to be SEXY, but it doesn't hurt!
• Second to your fat level, the next most important is your posture and bearing. With the prevalence of computer based office work, it's hard to find men these days who naturally stand tall with their shoulders back, head high, and chest lifted. This is in fact how your body is designed to stand, but a seated lifestyle will round the shoulders forward, make the neck jut forward at an unpleasant angle, and cause the belly to stick out. You'll look shorter and fatter than you really are. It's important to realize that this problem cannot be fixed by forcing yourself to stand up straight. The problem isn't a lack of willpower, it's the fact that your body's structure has been altered by the modern lifestyle. Only by strengthening and stretching your atrophied legs can you restore your posture to something a little more SEXY. (If only someone would write a guide about how to do this... OH SNAP!)
• Which leads me to the next point - flexibility. Being able to touch your toes or do fancy yoga poses is not the point of being flexible. A flexible body will simply glide through space better. A guy who moves like a block, no matter how good his condition, is inherently less pleasing to watch than a person who moves with some elegance. The only way to start moving with grace is to ease the amount of resistance between muscle and bone. And that means you need to start moving and stretching regularly. Take a yoga class. You'll meet other SEXY people there too.
• Chill with the chest and biceps stuff. If you have a massive chest and bulging biceps, there's only one group of people you're going to impress; the other sweaty dudes in the weight room. And that's not really the point right? Men focus on these two areas far too much, probably because they get results fastest here and they're the places you can easily see in a mirror. A large chest rarely looks good on a guy. What you want to be is proportional. A toned chest gained without heavy weights will look better in clothes and will get you away from the musclehead look.
As far as biceps go, just get over yourself. The biceps is not a very useful muscle for daily life, and when the arm is held relaxed (as it will be when you meet most people) a large bicep can actually make your arm look less toned. What you want to work on is your triceps, the muscle on the back of the arm. This muscle will help you with almost all actions involving your arm, and when the limb is held relaxed the triceps give it a great sexy shape.
• Legs! I can't tell you how many guys I've met who spend a lot of time on their upper body but neglect their legs. If you do this, you're going to look incredibly silly. A big muscley torso balanced on little chicken legs will knock you a quite a few pegs down on the sexy scale. Listen well men of the world, women love a guy with strong legs. They check out your legs and butt almost as much as you check out theirs. Strong legs hint that you are a truly athletic person and not just a gym rat preening his pecs and biceps in the mirror. We spend a whole month of the PCP hammering on the legs. Legs legs legs! Gotta have em looking good if you want to be SEXY.
• And finally, a good balance of Confidence and Curiosity. An attractive person is happy with who they are while simultaneously willing to improve and change. Be comfortable with who you are, but open minded about who you'll become. This combination makes you incredibly interesting to be around, and only interesting people will prove sexy in the long run.
So chew on that fellas, I'll come back to this topic from the ladies perspective in a few weeks. Till then, eat better, move your body a little every day, and stay SEXY!
